It is okay to be at a place of struggle. Struggle is just another word for growth. Even the most evolved beings find themselves in a place of struggle now and then. In fact, struggle is a sure sign to them that they are expanding; it is their indication of real and important progress. The only one who doesn’t struggle is the one who doesn’t grow. So if you are struggling right now, see it as a terrific sign — celebrate your struggle.
Step #1: Baseline Behavior
A lot of you guys have probably been baselining people for years without even realizing it. When you spend time with people, we take note—consciously or unconsciously—of their mannerisms, their speech patters, their good and bad habits. We know, for example, that it’s hard to expect to be on time on people who are always late. We know that it’s not a good idea to dismiss it when a calm, even-tempered person raises her voice in a conversation—the person may only do so when he or she has a serious concern or disagreement, and his or her point is usually valid. We know that some friend of ours has a nervous tic that sometimes make them stutter.
We have baselined them all, so we know how they act in normal circumstances. Since you’re already familiar with how they behave when they’re not lying, it should be an easy time to spotting unusual facial, verbal, or behavioral clues they might display when they are lying. We also know that they have habits that can sometimes look like clues to deception—like the nervous tic—but that is just a part of their ordinary behavior.
You broke up, you regret it and now you want them back. What to do? Here are 10 tips for how to get him/her back:
1. Initiate friendly contact. If you haven’t stayed in touch much after breaking up, its time to start talking again and getting back into their life. Start small with friendly gestures and conversations. Tell them that you’ve missed them and show that you care by asking how they are doing.
2. Figure out what the problem was and apologize. If you don’t already know what the main reason was for your breakup, figure it out. If you were at fault, apologize to him or her. Don’t make excuses or justify your actions, simply let them know how truly sorry you are.
3. Show that you’ve changed. Don’t rely on your words to demonstrate how sorry you are. Use your actions to show them that you’ve changed. If they can actually see positive changes in you, they’ll be more open to the idea of getting back together.
I am an intelligent, eloquent, well-mannered young woman who just so happens to say “fuck” a lot.
You wanna know what gets me off? What really turns me on? Writing an essay without changing the default size 11 Calibri font with no line spacing, and then changing it to size 12 Times New Roman with double spacing and seeing it grow from 3 to 5 pages. Yeah, that really gets me going.